Faith is the belief that life isn’t a series of random events—it’s a carefully crafted orchestration. Everything you experience, whether joyful or painful, is part of a greater design uniquely tailored to teach, shape, and guide you. When things don’t go the way you think they should, it’s not a mistake—it’s a message. Life, or God, does not make mistakes. Each moment, each situation, carries a lesson designed specifically for your growth. When you truly absorb the lesson intended for you, painful patterns dissolve, and you begin to move in harmony with life itself.
Consider gambling, for example—literally or metaphorically. You may gamble and lose, again and again, until it finally clicks: gambling leads to loss and pain. The more you need to repeat the lesson the bigger the pain. The more severe the consequences. Life will keep delivering the lesson until you receive it. The more resistant you are to learning the lesson, the more severe the consequences become. Life starts gently, offering soft nudges. But if you don’t listen, those nudges turn into shoves. Eventually, the pain of repeating the pattern outweighs the fear of change—and you finally learn. Once you do, that lesson no longer governs your experience. You’re free to move forward, onto the next lesson.
The same applies to relationships. You may find yourself drawn repeatedly to people who don’t have your best interests at heart. You try to force connections that aren’t meant to be— until the pain of those misalignments teaches you to value yourself, you repeatedly end up in relationships that leave you hurt and frustrated. When you realize you’ve been trying to fit square pegs into round holes the whole time, you can break the pattern and your relationships begin to shift, they become supportive, fulfilling, and aligned.
When we resist life, when we resist what is, we create a misaligned relationship with Life and separate ourselves from the whole. Thoughts like, “this shouldn’t be,” or “this isn’t right”, create a mentality of victim rather than a participant in your own journey. Resistance to what is creates an adversarial relationship with Life and we then fear it.
Our relationship with life, that is, our relationship towards everything that happens, is the primary relationship we have. Fighting with life rather than flowing with it, is suffering. Life is undefeated. Life bats 1000. We will never, ever, change what is yet so many of us seem to think our outrage, indignation, and anger will somehow bend Life to our will. Our negative responses to what is, only causes self-imposed suffering.
Cultivating your relationship with life - becoming part of the whole
The shift happens when you decide—fully and completely—that you are worthy of happiness. Once you do that, you stop judging life and what it brings you and embrace it with the faith that what is happening is happening for you. There are no mistakes. You need not make any corrections to what has happened or wish things to be different. You can have faith that life is your friend and what it brings you is exactly what you need to recognize your full potential, sovereignty, and power.
From there, your relationship with life is a healthy one that flows and is rewarding. You begin to greet each situation, each lesson, with openness and curiosity, knowing it’s shaping the person you’re becoming or more accurately revealing the person you authentically are. That willingness to be open to whatever life brings, to be curious and accepting of it, is what connects you to the whole. This is flow. This is faith. This is oneness.
When you resist what is, you disconnect yourself. Resistance to and separation from the flow of life causes fear and anxiety. Subconsciously you know you can’t stop life, or control it, so when you resist, you live in fear of it. Your unwillingness to flow with it, creates a sense disconnection and the suffering that comes along with that. Welcoming life with open arms moment by moment with curiosity and awe is how we feel part of the whole, safe, and one with what is.
Ironically, taking issue with what life brings us is done in the name of self-protection but it’s our resistance that causes our sense of separation which heightens our fears and creates suffering. We like to think we know how things should go. But that is not our domain. That is Life’s domain, or Gods, or the Universe’s. Our domain is the artistry of working with what we get and using it to grow into our highest incarnation.
You are here for a reason. God would not have placed you on this earth just to give you a hard time. When you have the faith that life is your ally and not your adversary, you move through life with grace. You can listen and be guided. You can respond with an open heart, You stop arguing with what is, and start collaborating with what’s possible. From this place the possibilities become truly infinite. That’s when your life begins to feel like a healthy relationship—full of peace, growth, and joy.
Faith is not passive—it’s the active choice to trust the orchestration of your life and to participate in it with awareness and Love.